Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.”
The Message says, “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.”
Our words either encourage or discourage. Romans 14:19 (MSG) “Help others with encouraging words.”
Our words have power, In the Living Bible, speaking of Jesus it says, “He used no word carelessly. Jesus addresses the importance of our words in Matthew 12:33-37 “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. 34 Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. 35 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things. 36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. 37 For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
The fruit that Jesus is talking about is the words of our mouth. Verse thirty six is very interesting; Jesus said we will give account for every idle word we speak. The Word idle means useless, unfruitful, not productive of good, vain, non important, and not tending to edification.
What idle words do we speak? Corse-joking (which the bible says we shouldn’t do (Ephesians 5:4)), hurting someone and not realizing it, or recognizing we did when they bring it to our attention, purposefully saying something mean when someone upsets us, and the list goes on and on. Some of us need to repent right now for idle words we have spoken. Just say this out loud, Lord I repent for all my idle words, the ones I can remember and those I cant, I ask for and receive forgiveness and ask you to help me to put a watch over my mouth in Jesus name.
Look at what The Message says, “It’s your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously.”
We know Romans 10:9-10, we must say out of our mouth Jesus is Lord to receive salvation, everything we receive comes by word, everything we give comes by words. We have all heard, actions speak louder than words, that is not always true, someone can be as nice as ever to you, but if you hear them say something hurtful about you to someone else that can and most of the time does cancel out all the nice things they can do.
We have all at one time said, I didn’t mean to say that, yes we did, or I didn’t mean it like that, yes we did. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, we may not have wanted to say something like we did, but we meant the meaning.
Now I know we all can misspeak, we can get our words twisted around at times, but most of the time when were caught saying something, we meant it, we just wish we wouldn’t have been caught saying it.
Our words have more effect and affect than what most of us realize, let each of us endeavor to build up and encourage ourselves and each others with our words, let’s speak life not hurt.
In closing I want to encourage you to ask yourself two questions, one, how do I talk about myself and second, how do I talk two and about others?
You need to speak positive about yourself, don’t say I’m ugly, say I am created in the image of God and I look good. When someone pays you a compliment say thank you, don’t say this old dress, or this old suit. Say thank you at every compliment, it builds up God’s image of you inside yourself. If you have a weight problem speak well of yourself, say I can loose weight, say you are the size you want to be and do what you need to do to get there. Call your job BLESSED, don’t say you hate it, say you enjoy it. Your words change how you see yourself. If you don’t speak well of yourself you won’t see yourself in a good way and you won’t think of yourself in a good way. Write out a list of scriptures that say who you are and confess them out loud daily, that’s how you see yourself the way God sees you.
Our words are little things but they have a big impact, use each word wisely. Retrain yourself word by word to speak The Word over yourself, others, and life’s situations. Take things moment by moment, if you mess up repent, then speak the right words, then move on.
You can change your words, how do you do that? By getting in The Word and lining your words up with His Word. Begin to do this and your life will get better, your situation may not change instantly, but when our words change, our mind and attitude follow, and when that happens our situations aren’t far behind.